A few of my friends are going through some pretty hard times right now. Between body pain and problems, leaky roofs and basements, job stress to the point of illness, sick parents, pets... Hard times all 'round.
This is life, these things are going to happen. And when they do, it is devastating. So we whine, and wonder why me, why now? I have so much on the go, this is not convenient for this to happen. And that's just it... tragedy never happens when we are ready for it. WE never get the opportunity to say, "Ok, unleash your wrath, I have a 2 day window with nothing going on so I can wallow in self pity".
In a perfect world...But life happens - we know that, and while sometimes expected, we are rarely 100% ready. So we deal with it, and move on.
Then there is the flip side of these tragedies. In the midst of our pity party, our "why me" "why now", we start to feel guilty. We think "it could have been worse, at least it wasn't an earthquake, hurricane, tsunami, crazed gunman..."
So here we are already feeling bad, and now we make ourselves feel worse. We accuse ourselves of being selfish because we are only thinking about our little world. Our little problems in the grand scheme of things are really that, little problems. And we are ashamed to be whining about it.
Well here is my message to you. Go ahead and whine. This is YOUR world! YOUR home! YOUR body! YOUR friends! YOUR family! YOUR pet! This is the life that YOU have worked so hard to create and nurture and be proud of, and when bad things happen to what you have...it is, well, bad.
It does not mean that you do not feel compassion for the tragedies of a huge global scale. On the contrary. I believe that you feel more because you understand personal tragedy.
My wish for you is that you give yourself permission to groan "why me?" "why now?". Let yourself feel bad for your tragedy and let go of the guilt. Because, face it, it sucks. Whine, have a pity party, then try and feel better. Hugs to all...
This is life, these things are going to happen. And when they do, it is devastating. So we whine, and wonder why me, why now? I have so much on the go, this is not convenient for this to happen. And that's just it... tragedy never happens when we are ready for it. WE never get the opportunity to say, "Ok, unleash your wrath, I have a 2 day window with nothing going on so I can wallow in self pity".
In a perfect world...But life happens - we know that, and while sometimes expected, we are rarely 100% ready. So we deal with it, and move on.
Then there is the flip side of these tragedies. In the midst of our pity party, our "why me" "why now", we start to feel guilty. We think "it could have been worse, at least it wasn't an earthquake, hurricane, tsunami, crazed gunman..."
So here we are already feeling bad, and now we make ourselves feel worse. We accuse ourselves of being selfish because we are only thinking about our little world. Our little problems in the grand scheme of things are really that, little problems. And we are ashamed to be whining about it.
Well here is my message to you. Go ahead and whine. This is YOUR world! YOUR home! YOUR body! YOUR friends! YOUR family! YOUR pet! This is the life that YOU have worked so hard to create and nurture and be proud of, and when bad things happen to what you have...it is, well, bad.
It does not mean that you do not feel compassion for the tragedies of a huge global scale. On the contrary. I believe that you feel more because you understand personal tragedy.
My wish for you is that you give yourself permission to groan "why me?" "why now?". Let yourself feel bad for your tragedy and let go of the guilt. Because, face it, it sucks. Whine, have a pity party, then try and feel better. Hugs to all...